This happened on during “Introduction to Buddhism and Meditation” at our local Tara Institute.

At the end of the session the teacher asked whether anybody had some questions about the topics just covered. A couple of people asked a question each, which were answered quickly. Then a person started hogging the question time boasting with knowledge about a number of unrelated issues, going on and on about things. Looking through the room after 10 minutes or so one could observe that a fair amount of people had started an “ad hoc meditation session” looking for their internal OM and trying to fetch their Compassion for the person. Looking at the people one could also observe that their faces had a rather strained look and one could come to the conclusion there were a number of people wanting to have a go”. It was quite funny to see how people were trying to do the “compassion thing” but had “other strategies” in their mind. The person was advised by a number of people, including Sue, that this was not good etiquette.

The next week the person was there, but stayed quiet during the question time.
The week after the question time began, a couple of people asked questions which were, once again, answered quickly. And then it happened again; the same person started hogging the question time. This time looking through the room one could quite easily observe that more people had gone into an “ad hoc meditation session” trying to find their inner OM and trying to stay calm and compassionate … which when looking at their strained faces wasn’t happening all that good. Again, it was quite funny to see how people were trying to do the “compassion thing” but had “other strategies” in their mind.

I admire Sue who went afterwards to her to explain that this wasnt the best etiquette (again), nobody else said anything, they all seem to think that they had to show compassion, yet lots of people came to Sue afterwards to tell her she had done a good thing.

Wroth is a hard thing to learn when you also trying to learn compassion.